How do you know when your partner wants to get close? How do you know when you feel distant? What are the “bids” (requests) you make for intimacy? This essay is about the process of “getting” what your partner is trying to tell you — so you can become closer and turn toward each other.
I asked him if he was suicidal. He paused and answered yes. This post is about what it’s like to talk to someone who’s suicidal — and to pay attention from the perspective of someone who feels hopeless.
Here’s a tribute and letter to my younger self reminding me that it’s going to be okay when my Grandma dies.
What does it mean to listen with your heart? How can you improve your listening skills?
As a recovering perfectionist, I have been experimenting with non-attachment. After years of studying, I have finally realized how to live without letting outcomes control me. Here’s a new blog post.
I’ve been noticing a lot of laziness in the dating world, both from men and women. Everyone says they’re looking for find someone, but when it’s time to push our limits, we often retreat or rely on the easy way. What do you think?
How do you know how to love a person? As we grow and experience more, we refine our needs and realize what works for us. Love is dynamic. Here’s a short list of ways I like to be loved. How about you?
Why do people still ghost? Many people thought it was a phenomena that would stop, but it’s a communication pattern that still exists and creates doubt and anger. What do you do when you’re ghosted?
Was it a coincidence that I opened up my first yoga book on the 99th anniversary of the birth of B.K.S. Iyengar? Please read along as I begin this yogic journey.
When do you make it “official”? Is your relationship only official when it’s posted on Facebook? Maybe that depends on your age and social media presence. Is it official when you decide to sleep together? In this day, a resounding “NO!” came across the phone line on our recent Sex, Love, Etc. convo-cast. Is it […]
We’ve all done it before. Not only haven’t we learned from our mistakes, we’ve made the same ones again!! Are we purposely trying to self-sabotage our development? Why don’t we stop ourselves?
Would you rather read your partner’s mind or get to know him or her better through easy and clear communication?
I highly recommend making an effort and trying to reunite with YOUR old friends and buddies if it’s been a while. The feeling of getting together is usually nothing short of magical and satisfying. Here’s what’s happened for me when I’ve reunited with old friends.
The “me too” club. This is a club I wish had zero members. Why are women posting on Facebook the words “me too”?
Tom Petty, the great American legend and musician, has been incredibly influential in my life. It’s felt like he’s been my friend. Please read my short tribute to him.
A few months ago, I wrote about Nighttime Anxiety. Now, something’s in the air causing a force of Anxiety that feels harrowing and uncomfortable. Here’s what I’ve done about it.
Some endings are tough for me. Actually, let me be honest. Most endings are challenging for me. And, writing an ending to individual blog posts can be the most challenging aspect of writing. Often, telling (or writing) a story, I feel compelled to give a thorough background, replete with relationships and descriptions of how I felt, then […]
People often wonder why I’m not married. Here’s a follow-up to the “Why Are You STILL Single?” piece — I talk about my experience as an unmarried woman in her 30s.
#Total #Eclipse and tons of fun on a road trip to #Oregon. #afterdefeat #lifecoach #blog
The truth always resides inside us. We opt to ignore it, to distract ourselves from listening to our hearts and heads. What happens if we slow down and find our truth?
I LOVE this post by guest blogger, Brita. She’s an incredible writer and offers amazing insight to the world of dating while working at a bar. Note to men: don’t do this anymore.
I wasn’t sure where I was going when I started this post. And then I ended at the end. Here’s a short, meandering post.
Wondering what’s REALLY important, my client and I have an ongoing discussion about whose life he’s living. Is he living the life that makes him happiest or the life that others ascribe for him? What about you?
How are men and women communicating in 2017? My clients and I have experienced a certain passivity and vagueness coming from men. Read more here!
I was approached by a Good Men Project editor, Jeremy McKeen, around January 2016. We started talking about all sorts of topics I wasn’t having with anyone else. We were emailing about love, relationships, passion, balancing time and dating in cities. Jeremy believed in me and encouraged me to submit my writing to GMP. Nervously, […]
After learning about the death of one of my teachers and my cat going missing, I realized I’m over death and loss. However, it’s not ending anytime soon, so how can I come to peace with this?
Aren’t we supposed to feel like adults who know what we’re doing? Guest blogger, Sarah Fader, challenges this concept.
Coaching is appropriate for people who feel like they can’t get ahead. They can’t get over the hurdles between where they are now and where they want to be.
Are you nervous to set a fee for your side hustle or service gig? Are you under earning and over working? Read this.
I’m co-leading a group called Sex, Love, Etc. for all people with The Good Men Project. Calls are on Thursdays at 4:30pm Pacific. Read more for details!
Do you mind when your yoga instructor blasts music? When does music interfere with your practice?
One of the powerful aha moments of a recent session with a client was when she realized she has been going nowhere fast. She’s stayed put while everything and everyone else moved forward.
How do you know when a place is right for you? Do you commemorate how long you’ve lived in your current apartment, house or city? What’s made you stay?
Recently, I wrote a post about putting myself out there. Here’s how it’s been working in my favor.
Are leaders crowned? Or are they self-appointed? My revelations on leadership after an excellent workshop.
Would you rather keep your problems or inherit someone else’s? Where would you start?
Have you ever tried going to bed but your mind won’t let you rest? You can’t catch any sleep because you’re too busy scrolling through the internet. Here’s my experience with nighttime anxiety.
I’ve struggled with the concept of putting myself out there. It’s time to announce my new women’s program and business partner! Read for more details.
Romance is a way of thinking about your partner in an intimate and amazingly considerate way that comes from the heart and makes the other person feel absolutely considered, loved, and appreciated.
Found this list of 10 Things That Require Zero Talent. Is this true that they really require no talent and they’re innate to all of us? Read the list to find out!
Guest blogger, Ivanna Stanfield, discusses authenticity and comfort zones while also considering her “elevator pitch.”
I recently learned of the death of my Rabbi. He was someone who taught me so much about life and mostly about myself.
I’ve been singled out as different, unique, quirky and weird for most of my life. Here’s a blog post that highlights how I came to love these descriptions.
Originally posted in September 2015, now this piece is even more relevant.
How can we aid and assist the individuals and families seeking asylum? I see this immigrant crisis as a call to action to do more.
Guest Blogger, Jayne Portnoy, eloquently writes about the #warrior deep within yourself. How do you see yourself?
The Women’s March in Los Angeles was one of the best days I’ve had in a long time. Short post on my experiences.
I have a new client who inspired me to look at relationships differently. His love of music has opened my eyes and ears differently.
A guest blogger offers her clear and thorough perspective on the topic of victim blaming.
Generally, tolerance is assumed to be a great thing. It’s viewed as an unbigoted, open-minded perspective, kind of like an undiscriminating crushed velvet blanket that warms everyone and anyone…But tolerance has another side, as well.
I think (many) men associate strength with stoicism and keeping a tight upper lip. Women, in general, liken strength to being able to honestly express themselves and negotiate to an end goal. Since men don’t often have a safe place to express themselves, they internalize issues and become moody or irritable. How do you deal with moodiness?