There or Here

I just learned that today is International Day of Happiness. A few blog posts ago, I talked about living a life of meaning rather than simply a life of happiness. To follow up on that, I don’t think I specifically mentioned that having a purposeful, meaningful life is often one with great joy and happiness. 

This brings me to a conversation I recently had with my dear friend and old roommate, Josh. Josh posits that we basically know in our hearts who we are and what we want but we often take the winding, twisted path to get there. So where is there? Josh worked as a TV writer for many years. He learned how to craft an excellent script in perfect formatting, but always found himself lacking interest and concentration in the final product. He found great affinity for stocks, business, baseball stats, music, and numbers. He moved slowly. At times, he would argue that his research kept him inert. I saw it: when we were roommates, he would kick and scream at the thought of writing something with his partner. Then, he’d eventually stay up all night and do it, produce something great, and feel unfulfilled. One day, something clicked for him. He had hoarded files of articles about films and TV shows, people, media companies, and saw that there wasn’t much synchronicity among all of these entities. He realized that there was a need in the marketplace for a new kind of product and it hit him! He would fulfill this lack!

So it’s now been a couple of years and Josh’s company is gaining momentum. Josh has taken hundreds of meetings, become a virtual statistician, and seems more satisfied than ever. Is he happy? I’d say that he seems fulfilled. He has frustrations and bad days, but on the whole, he seems to really care about what he’s doing. I love hearing the enthusiasm in his voice when he reflects about the entertainment industry from a business perspective! He’s much more animated now when talking about scripts from the business point of view rather than the entertainment side.

How did Josh get HERE? While hearing his story for the last 8 or so years, I wonder if he would have found true delight if he had not started his own company. He thinks he’d be continually searching for how to get THERE when the answer was to really be here. He slowed down to speed up. He took stock of what his true passions are, was sharp to current trends in the marketplace, and gave careful consideration to starting a business. Each day, he is HERE with a good eye on what’s THERE. 

His daily focus, attention, and intention is to make decisions that serve him and his company. He’s become excellent at taking stock at what actually is rather than how it “should” be or worse, how it “could” be. Josh is a true intellect, someone who reminds me to stay HERE rather than waiting until I’m THERE. F. Scott Fitzgerald says it best and describes Josh and his philosophy to a tee. 

“The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function.”

F. Scott Fitzgerald

So happy International Day of Happiness, Josh and my other readers. May today feel fulfilling as much as happy. 

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9 thoughts on “There or Here

  1. I love that quote from fitzgerald! I think as long as you’re passionate about what you’re doing, just follow your bliss. The results will take care of themselves, but the journey will be 1,000 times better than if you hadn’t.


    • I agree! I used to be so hard on myself. That unless it was the “right” way, I should not do it. Now I’m of the mind to keep moving forward. This is a good topic to write about next time. Thanks for your comment!


  2. I found this link nested in the Good Men Project article you wrote yesterday.

    The “Project” article synthesizes my experience perfectly. Just add kids and house and car in the mix.

    I am at the verge of starting “my thing.” And the problem so far for me to figure out “The Thing” is that I confuse the could be and should be with what actually is in front of me. Same with the marriage.

    I had JUST had this conversation with a friend. About figuring out My Thing. What a meaningful coincidence to find this article.

    You’re fantastic.

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    • Hi! I’d love to chat with you further. Please send me an email: Nina at

      I’m so glad you resonated with my sentiments. It’s hard to start and often even tougher to be here when there is so tempting. Let’s continue this conversation offline.


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