Why I’ve Waited
People often wonder why I’m not married. Here’s a follow-up to the “Why Are You STILL Single?” piece — I talk about my experience as an unmarried woman in her 30s.
Category: relationships
Sex, Love, Etc. — NEW Group!
I’m co-leading a group called Sex, Love, Etc. for all people with The Good Men Project. Calls are on Thursdays at 4:30pm Pacific. Read more for details!
Going Nowhere Fast: Choosing Between Your Future and Your Past
One of the powerful aha moments of a recent session with a client was when she realized she has been going nowhere fast. She’s stayed put while everything and everyone else moved forward.
What is Romance?
Romance is a way of thinking about your partner in an intimate and amazingly considerate way that comes from the heart and makes the other person feel absolutely considered, loved, and appreciated.
How Long Does It Take to Fall In Love?
Falling in love feels so right. How long does it actually take? Is it minutes? Weeks? Months? Years? Are there different iterations of love?
Timing
I used to think it was mostly willingness that was more important in keeping relationships healthy and alive. Lately I’ve had a change of heart and believe timing is crucial.
When It Stops Being Good For You
Why do we fall for aloof or flaky people? How do we know (or finally decide) it’s the end? What makes us stop?
Is It Good For You?
Some things are good for us now but not in the long or medium term future, while other things might feel uncomfortable now but are good for us in the long term.
Self-Selecting In and Out
One of the hardest decisions you’ll ever face in life is choosing whether to walk away or try harder. Not all relationships are meant to last forever.
Delusions: “You Don’t Know My Boyfriend.”
“You don’t know my boyfriend.”
“He’d never do that.”
The doubt in your stomach is a tell. But you ignore it. Nobody could be so insensitive, especially your significant other, whom you’ve known forever. He assured you you were the ONE. Then how are these delusions even possible?
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