The Erasure of Time
Some musings on time when it seems to stop.
Election Day Musings
Some musings about Election Day, the current administration, and a perspective on America now. We will get through this. #afterdefeat
A Blessing For Joy Today
Here is a recent poem I wrote for this anxiety-producing week.
“A Blessing for Joy Today” By Nina Rubin.
When the Unusual Becomes Ordinary
There are benefits to the ordinariness of life during Covid. We have more time and space to explore ourselves and the things we’ve taken for granted.
Ruts and Routines
Six months of Covid life and we’re fatigued. How do you get out of the rut of your routine? Here are some tips.
Seeing the Best in Someone
When we look for someone’s merits, we might actually get what we’re looking for!
The New Familiar
Here’s what to do when you meet that new person you’ve spent all of your moments missing.
The Discomfort of Loneliness
Loneliness comes up for lots of people during the holidays and well in to the winter months. How do you temper loneliness?
Love At Any Age
“I never expected to feel this happy.” -Darlene, 83
Why the holidays are hard for some people
The holidays are some people’s favorite time of year. For others, they want to hibernate until mid-January. Here’s how to get through today.
Stop Lying To Me
He tried to protect me by omitting some crucial information. Really, he just re-opened a wound. Stop lying.
In Pursuit of Dreams
Are you considering a pursuit of a passion project? How do you take the leap?
No More Violence Or Mass Shooting
Why do you think we have so much hatred, violence and occurrences of gun violence? What can we each do to help conquer this?
I Choose Me
Who chooses how to make decisions in your life? Do you want someone else to choose for you? Are you comfortable with your own abilities in making decisions? Read more here!
Why Passion Is Attractive
Have you let others in on your passions? Have they accepted you or ridiculed your interests? Read more to learn why passion is attractive.
Matchmakers and Blind Dates
Why do I fall for blind dates? Have you ever had a blind date? Here’s a new post about my recent experience on a blind date.
When Will I Get Better?
I had a recent conversation about healing from trauma and disappointment. My friend asked how long it usually takes to get better. This post is all about the healing process of “getting better.” Can we ever get better?
Tom Petty Felt Like My Friend
Tom Petty, the great American legend and musician, has been incredibly influential in my life. It’s felt like he’s been my friend. Please read my short tribute to him.
When Honesty Pays
How often do you see women speak politely but hold themselves back from honesty? Do you think honesty is usually the best policy? How do you handle occurrences when something has been stuffed down inside?
Seven Reasons to Hire A Coach
You’ve known for a long time that you want to make some changes. Yet, you haven’t acted on these changes. Maybe you’ve been scared, uncomfortable, uncertain. Here are seven reasons why you should hire a Coach.
100 Happy Days
My journey in the #100HappyDays Project has been interesting. Take a read to understand why this concept of becoming comfortable with being an active user on social media and posting more about myself has been big growth for me.
What Does “I Love You” Really Mean?
What does “I Love You” Really Mean? How do you say it and how do you interpret when it’s said to you?
Turning Toward Each Other
How do you know when your partner wants to get close? How do you know when you feel distant? What are the “bids” (requests) you make for intimacy? This essay is about the process of “getting” what your partner is trying to tell you — so you can become closer and turn toward each other.
The Other Side of Suicide
I asked him if he was suicidal. He paused and answered yes. This post is about what it’s like to talk to someone who’s suicidal — and to pay attention from the perspective of someone who feels hopeless.
A Most Special Person, My Grandma
Here’s a tribute and letter to my younger self reminding me that it’s going to be okay when my Grandma dies.
Listening With Your Heart
What does it mean to listen with your heart? How can you improve your listening skills?
Permanently Loving The Temporary: Letting Go of Control
As a recovering perfectionist, I have been experimenting with non-attachment. After years of studying, I have finally realized how to live without letting outcomes control me. Here’s a new blog post.
Lazy Dating
I’ve been noticing a lot of laziness in the dating world, both from men and women. Everyone says they’re looking for find someone, but when it’s time to push our limits, we often retreat or rely on the easy way. What do you think?
How to Love Me
How do you know how to love a person? As we grow and experience more, we refine our needs and realize what works for us. Love is dynamic. Here’s a short list of ways I like to be loved. How about you?
Still Ghosting In The Shadows
Why do people still ghost? Many people thought it was a phenomena that would stop, but it’s a communication pattern that still exists and creates doubt and anger. What do you do when you’re ghosted?
No Coincidences (In Yoga)
Was it a coincidence that I opened up my first yoga book on the 99th anniversary of the birth of B.K.S. Iyengar? Please read along as I begin this yogic journey.
Let’s Make It Official
When do you make it “official”? Is your relationship only official when it’s posted on Facebook? Maybe that depends on your age and social media presence. Is it official when you decide to sleep together? In this day, a resounding “NO!” came across the phone line on our recent Sex, Love, Etc. convo-cast. Is it […]
Making The Same Mistake (Again)
We’ve all done it before. Not only haven’t we learned from our mistakes, we’ve made the same ones again!! Are we purposely trying to self-sabotage our development? Why don’t we stop ourselves?
Telepathy
Would you rather read your partner’s mind or get to know him or her better through easy and clear communication?
10 Things That Happen When You Reunite With Old Friends
I highly recommend making an effort and trying to reunite with YOUR old friends and buddies if it’s been a while. The feeling of getting together is usually nothing short of magical and satisfying. Here’s what’s happened for me when I’ve reunited with old friends.
Me Too.
The “me too” club. This is a club I wish had zero members. Why are women posting on Facebook the words “me too”?
Avalanche of Anxiety
A few months ago, I wrote about Nighttime Anxiety. Now, something’s in the air causing a force of Anxiety that feels harrowing and uncomfortable. Here’s what I’ve done about it.
Endings And Goodbyes
Some endings are tough for me. Actually, let me be honest. Most endings are challenging for me. And, writing an ending to individual blog posts can be the most challenging aspect of writing. Often, telling (or writing) a story, I feel compelled to give a thorough background, replete with relationships and descriptions of how I felt, then […]
Why I’ve Waited
People often wonder why I’m not married. Here’s a follow-up to the “Why Are You STILL Single?” piece — I talk about my experience as an unmarried woman in her 30s.
Total Totality
#Total #Eclipse and tons of fun on a road trip to #Oregon. #afterdefeat #lifecoach #blog
Deep Down, You Already Know The Truth
The truth always resides inside us. We opt to ignore it, to distract ourselves from listening to our hearts and heads. What happens if we slow down and find our truth?
Guest Post: Love On The Rocks
I LOVE this post by guest blogger, Brita. She’s an incredible writer and offers amazing insight to the world of dating while working at a bar. Note to men: don’t do this anymore.
Decisions and Meditative Writing
I wasn’t sure where I was going when I started this post. And then I ended at the end. Here’s a short, meandering post.
Whose Life Are You Living?
Wondering what’s REALLY important, my client and I have an ongoing discussion about whose life he’s living. Is he living the life that makes him happiest or the life that others ascribe for him? What about you?
(Communication With) Men
How are men and women communicating in 2017? My clients and I have experienced a certain passivity and vagueness coming from men. Read more here!
Good Men Project and IndieGoGo
I was approached by a Good Men Project editor, Jeremy McKeen, around January 2016. We started talking about all sorts of topics I wasn’t having with anyone else. We were emailing about love, relationships, passion, balancing time and dating in cities. Jeremy believed in me and encouraged me to submit my writing to GMP. Nervously, […]
I’m Tired of Death
After learning about the death of one of my teachers and my cat going missing, I realized I’m over death and loss. However, it’s not ending anytime soon, so how can I come to peace with this?
Guest Post: I STILL Don’t Have my Shit Together
Aren’t we supposed to feel like adults who know what we’re doing? Guest blogger, Sarah Fader, challenges this concept.
How His Moodiness Pushed Me Away
I think (many) men associate strength with stoicism and keeping a tight upper lip. Women, in general, liken strength to being able to honestly express themselves and negotiate to an end goal. Since men don’t often have a safe place to express themselves, they internalize issues and become moody or irritable. How do you deal with moodiness?
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